A few years ago, I was thrown, kicking and screamin', into the world of 'friends and family of people suffering from addiction'. Usually referred to as the 'addict' but I see these as people in pain...the addiction is just a symptom.
A vast majority of people you walk past on the street today are either addicted themselves or close to a person struggling with addiction. When I talk about addiction, I'm talking about drugs or alcohol, technology, shopping, sex, food, exercise...the list is almost endless.
Dr. Gabor Maté says that pushing an addict to change or give up an addiction usually only results in them pushing back. The desire to change has to come from the addict themselves to have the best chance of success.
Well, that certainly puts the family and friends in an interesting spot, doesn't it? Nobody wants to watch people struggle. Especially, the people we love.
If you're like me, I was stunned and my first instinct was to fix it. I didn't know what 'it' was ... but I had to fix it. I really thought I could control what happened. At that time, the only thing I did right was to trust the amazing people who are trained to work with people who struggle with addiction and just stay out of their way.
While the addictions counsellors were working their magic, I sat down and had a good hard look inside:
What just happened?
Did I contribute to this?
How do I deal with this new life, whatever it ends up looking like?
How do I make things better?
What's my next best step?
And you know what? It has taken me years to figure things out ... for me.
At the time, there were precious few resources to turn to. A lot of research, reading and soul searching has led me down this path. With decades of corporate training experience behind me, I created the ConNEXTion courses. This program is not for the addict...this is for you!
Addiction is an epidemic. There are so many variables. I'll give you the tools to move forward but everyone's situation is different.
Ask yourself some questions:
What's the pain behind your loved one's addiction?
What's your relationship with them?
How old are you and your loved one?
Is this person still alive or have they passed?
Are they still in active addiction or are they in recovery?
How have you coped in the past?
Now we are ready to dive deep and change your story.
I developed the ConNEXTion program to fill a gap. This is the info I was looking for over my journey. I was looking for my next best step because I was overwhelmed. I felt broken.
Find some peace for yourself. Transformation is your own responsibility. Take that first step and enrol in Inspire.
Education and Certifications
Certified Intuitive Coach & Meditation Teacher
Certified in Intuition Focused Therapy® through SoulStrong Institute. IFT® is a 16 step process of learning intuition and a meditation method designed to ignite that deep intuitive wisdom within. As a modality, IFT is designed to empower individuals to become their own gurus, know their own answers, touch into the inner wisdom within to guide their paths and create a much deeper transformation.
The most powerful healing stories encompass mind-body and soul level therapies. Intuition and integrative approaches are the way of the future. IFT® is a cutting-edge and effective method for deeper embodiment, powerful intuition, the mind-body-soul interface and the SoulStrong meditation method.
IFT® Clinical Hypnotherapy through SoulStrong Institute is a powerful tool for removing deep-rooted blocks in people through subconscious healing. This provides an opportunity to dive deeper into core beliefs, resolution of emotional residues and deeper subconscious blocks. Together we access the subconscious, remove blocks and create deeper transformation and healing.
Navigating our way through the addiction maze is like wandering alone through a desert with no water. It consumes us as it sucks the life right out of us—drains us of our time, our energy, our mental health, and quite possibly, our very lives. Even if we're not the person with the addiction...an addiction can kill us.
On one side there is trauma, PTSD, grief, shame and all stress-related illnesses ravaging our bodies. But, on the other side. those who make it out may actually go on to experience growth and peace. And that is our goal here.
Restoring our lives will come when we find the courage to face and identify our pain. Yes, the same pain that is tearing our hearts to pieces.
Each one of us has a choice: live our lives in anger and bitterness or simply, trust ourselves enough that we'll guide our way through the maze.
Transformation is a choice.
We must shift our focus from being fearful and reactive to recognizing what we do have control over... and relying on our bodies to intuitively guide us to make better decisions.
And then, ever so slowly, our heart begins to stir, first a spark, then a fire of hope erupts. We have the courage to continue on. Light invades the darkness and the movement toward healing begins.
It starts with our perspective ... looking at the world differently so you can regroup, take a deep breath, and begin to live your life again. A better life.
The ConNEXTion program empowers you to use your intuitive wisdom. You'll find peace, calm and make decisions that are right for you. I provide clear, practical steps to igniting your intuition through meditation, connection and embodiment. We rely on the four cornerstones: Connect, Know, Create, and Move. Striking this balance opens your heart and the path to wholeness.
Our lives are a series of defining moments strung together by the passing of time. Surrender fully to this moment, because it is not the moment that defines us, but how we choose to live in it.
- Jill Pendley