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The baggage attached to the word 'NO'

Saying no is hard. It feels like a rejection, and it’s easy to feel guilty about disappointing or hurting someone else by saying no. But there are times when saying no can be an act of love: for yourself, for someone else, or for both of you. Here are some ways you might be able to say no more.

When we say ‘no’ to someone, it can be because we're avoiding conflict. If you're afraid of being judged or rejected, then saying yes to something that feels uncomfortable is preferable to the potential consequences of saying no.

Sometimes, when people don't understand what they're asking for or why they want something so much (or at all), I find myself saying "yes" even though I know in my heart of hearts that this thing will not work out well for me in any way shape or form—especially financially! This happens especially when there's some kind of emotional attachment involved: if someone asks me out on a date and says he loves me...well...I'd like nothing more than never having dated him again, but if he asks me out again after three months and still loves might be possible! Thus leading us into another round where further discussions need occurring about whether said person should go through with their proposal plans instead--and whether said proposals would involve travel abroad together."

Sometimes we say ‘yes’ and then regret it.

This can happen when we say yes to something that is important to someone else but not to us. It can also happen when we say yes to something that we don't want to do. And sometimes, it's just a matter of prioritizing our own needs and wishes over those of others around us.

Sometimes we don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings or damage a relationship by saying no. We want to continue the relationship, but we also want to protect ourselves from additional stress and potential heartache.

Sometimes you can help another person by not saying no. It’s important for everyone involved in this situation to understand what each person wants from it and how they can work together on achieving those goals without hurting feelings or causing problems between them.

Sometimes we don’t know how to say no. We want to help people and make our lives easier, but in the end, it's just not worth it. When you're feeling like taking on too much, try using a soft no instead of a firm "no" so that your friend doesn't feel rejected or judged.

If they persist with their request anyway, explain why they shouldn't do what they're asking for—you can also use this time as an opportunity to ask them about something else that would be more useful for you at the moment (for example: "Why don't we go shopping today?").

Sometimes we’re afraid of being judged. We are all imperfect and we don’t want to be seen as one of those people who judges others harshly or harshly evaluates ourselves for our own faults.

I know this feeling well because I have experienced it in my life. In fact, I still struggle with it today and sometimes find myself getting so caught up in what other people think that I forget who I am as a person—and what matters most: the quality of my own character and


Sometimes saying yes means saying no to something else that matters to us more.

This is a hard one, because we want our friends and family members to feel good about themselves when they see us opening our arms wide in welcome. But sometimes the cost of being too accommodating can be higher than the benefit of having someone around who is happy and comfortable with their life choices—and this applies whether you’re an adult or child looking for acceptance or attention from others.

It might help if you were honest with yourself about what those things are; then consider how long it will take before they’re worth sacrificing other important ones (like your own happiness). If there’s no way around this kind of compromise, do some soul-searching: ask yourself if either party really benefits from being involved in whatever project/activity he or she is offering as a sacrifice? Is there anything else which would make her feel better about herself instead? Or does this mean letting go completely by not attending at all?

Saying no can be difficult, but it doesn't have to be. In fact, saying no can actually help you feel better about yourself and your life in general. So let's talk about ways that you can say no without hurting others or yourself:

  • Say “No” to someone who has hurt you or made you uncomfortable by telling them how they've upset or offended you (for example, if a friend asks permission before changing plans). If they persist in asking permission when they know their actions are hurting those around them, then tell them that the behaviour isn't acceptable and walk away from the conversation until the person feels like talking again later on (or not at all).

  • Say “No” if someone asks something beyond what is reasonable for your time frame—especially when it involves another person's personal space like asking if they want more money after making an expensive purchase; this is also called encroaching on another person’s privacy because now we're talking about finances instead of just spending time together outside of work hours with friends/family members etcetera...etcetera...etcetera…

Saying no doesn’t have to be a struggle, but it does take honest communication and setting boundaries around your priorities. If you find yourself saying ‘yes’ when you really mean ‘no’ or vice versa, try taking a moment to reflect on what is most important for you in that moment. You can also try writing down a list of things that matter to you before accepting an invitation or agreeing to something new. Whatever works for you!

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